Monthly Archives: April 2011

One Day

My ovaries explode when I watch Andrés play with kids… & I secretly pretend they’re ours.


I hope my kids are this awesome.

(click “Watch on YouTube”)

My favorite YouTube comment on this video:

Great moves. It’s a damn shame the two walruses and raccoon don’t think so. –littleballa21

She’s right. The amateur furry with a faux raccoon scalp on her head should reexamine her own life choices before looking at anyone else like that.

Edit: I paused this video & accidentally caught this gem:


I will not donate blood or money to the American Red Cross.

I donate blood frequently. It’s easy for me (when my iron is high enough), I don’t mind the needles, & I think watching my warm blood pump into a bag is pretty neat. I have type O negative blood & I am also CMV negative. This means my blood can go to pretty much anybody because O negative is the universal donor, & not having the common & widespread Cytomegalovirus, means my blood is more pure. So basically I have Superior Blood™.

I’ve had several negative experiences with the Red Cross over the multiple times I’ve donated:

  • 45+ minute wait times before the interview despite making an appointment in advance;
  • direct rudeness & unprofessionalism from several employees;
  • employees complaining about donors within earshot;
  • bruises the size of mangoes from them stabbing at my veins like a blindfolded four year old
  • neglect to the point that my blood was pooling on the floor under my chair

When I tried to call to make appointments, they couldn’t understand where my cellphone area code was, so I was advised by the robot voice to hang up & call from a land line. I had to drive home & call from my parent’s land line. It’s 2011.

Then the stalker calls started. The Red Cross called me from an unknown number 15 times in the span of a couple weeks. FIFTEEN TIMES. I answered sometimes, I ignored the calls most of the time. Sometimes the calls came multiple times a day.  When I answered, it was an automated system telling me to hold for the next available representative. What? THEY called ME. Why the hell am I on hold?

The tipping point for me to stop donating with the Red Cross was when I learned they sell blood to Children’s National. They sell donated blood to the children’s hospital. I now donate blood directly to Children’s National, whose employees are polite & competent. There’s absolutely no wait time for those with appointments; I can get in & out in the time I spend waiting to be seen with the Red Cross. I called the Red Cross & told them something about exchanging needles in Africa to get them to stop harassing me like leeches. After that all of the unknown number calls stopped.

NOM Strategist Now Supports Gay Marriage

by Lane Moore, Jezebel, April 9, 2011

Louis J. Marinelli, the National Organization for Marriage‘s former tour organizer, says he now supports civil marriage equality for LGBT people.

Marinelli, who was known for railing against the LGBT community via Facebook and Twitter posts has now posted a statement on his blog saying:

Having spent the last five years putting all of my political will, interest and energy into fighting against the spread of same-sex marriage as if it were a contagious disease, I must admit that it is hard for me to put the following text into words let alone utter them with my own voice.

Whether it is an issue of disbelief, shame or embarrassment, the one thing that is for sure is that I have come to this point after several months of an internal conflict with myself. That conflict gradually tore away at me until recently when I was able to for the first time simply admit to myself that I do in fact support civil marriage equality.

Marinelli says he eventually realized that he was “surrounded by hateful people; propping up a cause I created five years ago, a cause which I had begun to question” and that he “aimed to extend an olive branch” by way of erasing disparaging comments and banning the people who posted them.

Once you understand the great difference between civil marriage and holy marriage, there is not one valid reason to forbid the former from same-sex couples, and all that is left to protect is the latter.

Indeed Christians and Catholics alike are well within their right to demand that holy matrimony, a sacrament and service performed by the Church and recognized by the Church, remains between a man and a woman as their faith would dictate. However, that has nothing to do with civil marriage, performed and recognized by the State in accordance with state law.

My name is Louis J. Marinelli, a conservative-Republican and I now support full civil marriage equality. The constitution calls for nothing less.

The part I emphasized in bold is exactly how I feel. I don’t mind if your religion forbids same-sex marriage, but not allowing civil marriage is ridiculous to me. Two people of the same sex getting married will not affect your marriage. The world will not end.

This chart sums that up pretty well:

Also, it’s hilarious to me that the party who runs on a platform of Good Family Values has SO MANY gay sex scandals.

A 34 Letter Word

Danny & Annie from StoryCorps on Vimeo.

Danny Perasa and his wife, Annie, came to StoryCorps to recount their twenty-seven-year romance. As they remember their life together from their first date to Danny’s final days with terminal cancer, these remarkable Brooklynites personify the eloquence, grace, and poetry that can be found in the voices of everyday people when we take the time to listen.

I’m all teary eyed. This is a heartbreakingly beautiful story.

The Folly of Subjecting Rights to a Vote

by John Tomasic, The Colorado Independent, April 7, 2011

A recent survey of Mississippi Republicans conducted by Public Policy Polling (pdf) found that a majority of them believe inter-racial marriage should be illegal. According to the poll, 46 percent of the Republicans told PPP staffers that interracial marriage should be illegal and 14 percent of them said they weren’t sure. Only 40 percent of Mississippi Republicans believe interracial couples should be allowed to legally marry. The poll comes a week after Colorado Republicans voted down a bill that would have granted Colorado gay couples domestic partnership rights already granted automatically with marriage to straight people. The Republican lawmakers said the issue should be left to voters to decide.

The question on interracial couples came in a poll intended to measure support for likely GOP presidential candidates. PPP called 400 usual Mississippi Republican primary voters between March 24 and March 27. The firm reported a margin of error at +/-4.9 percent.

The Colorado civil unions bill passed easily and with bipartisan support in the state’s Democratic-controlled Senate before dying in the House Judiciary Committee. Senator Kevin Lundberg, R-Berthoud, led the opposition early, mostly citing the need to protect traditional marriage but also pointing to votes of the people cast in 2006. That year Coloradans passed Amendment 43, which defines marriage as a union between one man and one woman, and they voted down Referendum I, which would have established civil unions for gay people. “We have to respect the will of the people,” Lundberg said.

House Judicary Committee Chairman Bob Gardner, R-Colorado Springs, took up that argument, as did all of the other Republican Committee members after they voted to kill the bill.

“I think [civil unions] is a major public policy decision,” said Gardner, “and because it was subjected to a vote of the people, both in Referendum I and Amendment 43 in different ways, to do it differently now, [to pass it] legislatively, that strikes me as aggregating to ourselves something that the people have spoken on.”

The House sponsor of the bill, Denver Democrat Mark Ferrandino, said he thought the talk from Republicans about the “will of the people” was just a cover.

“This was pressure by leadership to not let [the bill] out of committee,” he said. “That’s what you saw. They were scared… They were too concerned with what the far right wanted and not too concerned with what the people of Colorado wanted.”

Democratic Judiciary Committee member Claire Levy said at the hearing that asking voters to weigh whether or not to grant citizens rights was not appropriate. We don’t submit to a vote of the people Constitutional rights guaranteed to all Americans, including minority Americans. That’s not the way the United States is governed, she said.

The progressive politics America Blog, writing on the PPP poll, said the reported numbers were only a sort of tip of the iceberg.

“What’s really sick is that 46 percent of Republicans were willing to admit to a stranger (pollster) that they don’t approve of the mingling of the races. Imagine how high the REAL number is.”

Andrés is Colombian/Puerto Rican, & I’m white. I don’t usually think of our relationship in terms of it being a Controversial Interracial Relationship. Well, a Controversial Interracial Relationship with a Ten Year Age Gap. Well, except when we get mean mugged by old white ladies at the mall. And yes, my father approves, not that I should have to ask permission at 23 years old.

We have some differences, but most of them come from being two different people, not solely from being from different cultures or being different races. Neither of us has ever had hang-ups about dating outside our respective races. My first “boyfriend” (of two weeks) was a sweet black kid named Lemar in 9th grade. He’d send me little love poems written in French & I’d embarrassingly have to get my dad to translate.

Reading these poll results from Republicans in Mississippi is shocking to me. It’s 2011. I’m not even sure why this was asked, but it’s truly eye-opening. It also reinforces why neither of us ever want to live more South than Northern Virginia. We’ll stick with major cities on the Upper-East coast, where attitudes like this are a little harder to come by, instead of the majority.