Monthly Archives: May 2012

Lennon & Maisy

Twelve- and 8-year-old sisters Lennon and Maisy — and their butter containers — cover Robyn’s “Call Your Girlfriend.” I’m in love.


Wedding To Do

Last time I checked in about the wedding, it was one month after we got engaged. Since I got the dress, it’s crunch time.

WEDDING MODE. ENGAGE. beep. boop. beepbeep. boop. beep.


  • Date set
  • Officiant booked
  • Venues reserved
  • Photobooth booked
  • Photographer reserved
  • Cake ordered
  • Cake flowers ordered
  • Cake topper ordered
  • Dress ordered
  • Guest list finalized
  • Engagement photos taken
  • Save the Dates printed & mailed
  • Spanish Announcements printed
  • Invitations printed
  • Bridesmaids dresses ordered
  • Jars / lanterns / candles acquired
  • Andrés’ gift purchased

To Do:

  • Sign contract on venues (meeting 8/18)
  • Finalize menu: food / alcohol (8/18)
  • Sign contract with photographer
  • Book DJ (meeting 7/29)
  • Mail Invitations
  • Get marriage license ( 8/20)
  • Meet with minister 1 (7/28) / 2 (8/18)
  • Schedule events for ceremony / reception
  • Decorations
    • Lace & twine jars crafted
    • White lights + tulle
    • Burlap table runners (Mom is making)
    • Aubergine napkins
    • Peony paper flowers
    • Sparklers / bubbles / matchboxes
    • Chalkboard silver trays + stands
    • Photobooth props
    • Children’s chalkboards (7)
    • Lavender in bags & cigar wedding favors
    • Guestbook tree (A is making) + ink + pens + wipes
    • Seating chart frame + pins
  • Attire
    • Bride: veil + hair flowers / shoes (ceremony + reception) / jewelry / faux fur wrap
    • Bridesmaids: faux fur wraps / shoes
    • Groom:  tux /shoes / ring / gifts
    • Groomsmen: tuxes
  • Flowers (meeting 8/18)Wedding night fancy thingsReserve cabin for wedding nightReserve cabin for wedding night
    • Bride / Bridesmaids bouquets (1 + 3)
    • Groom / Groomsmen boutonnieres (4)
    • Mother / Grandmother corsages (5)
    • Baby’s breath decor bundles (20 for isles)
    • Lavender table bundles (8?)

Phew. Lots to do. Where to start?!


Top: This weekend I went to look for a wedding dress with my sister B. We narrowed it down to two contenders, and made an appointment for Monday to make the final selection with my mom and my little sister there. Wish my oldest sister could have been there, too!

We ended up picking a completely different dress, that I absolutely love. It’s just gorgeous. I’m so excited! Now we’re shopping for a bird cage veil or just some ivory flowers for my hair.

Middle: Andrés & I went to a birthday BBQ on Saturday after I got back from the first dress appointment. We picked up some fried chicken and biscuits at Popeyes (their biscuits are THE BEST – I’m thinking about quitting my job and working there just to get the recipe) on the way.  We had some leftover biscuits that we ate with some leftover smoked salmon (also from the BBQ) and eggs. I think it was the most delicious breakfast I’ve ever had.

Bottom: On Sunday, I got a hankering for some coconut cake. I left the recipe at home and forgot to get the cream of coconut and the coconut milk, but I did get a bottle of coconut extract (which the recipe did not call for). I just loaded up the cake batter and the frosting with a bunch of that & it turned out okay. I definitely still want to the try the more coconut saturated recipe, though. We had some limes so I grated some zest over the cake on a whim. It felt fancy and added a little zing.

Very Good Things

This week I’m grateful for:

Very Good Things

This week I’m grateful for:

  • Andrés Felipe
  • Superman Ruby
  • Surprise bottles of wine
  • Cake donuts
  • Ruby learning new tricks
  • Friendly neighbors
  • Four minute eggs over homemade biscuits
  • Bottle caps candies
  • Fun birthday parties with new friends
  • Homemade horchata
  • Milhojas with strawberries
  • My mom’s awesome sewing abilities
  • Dinner with my parents
  • Getting more curtains hung
  • Visiting neighborhood kids
  • Andrés team winning the tournament!!!
  • Our favorite pizza

Double Jab, Right Upper Cut, Left Hook, Right Hand

Eric Kelly, four-time U.S. amateur boxing champion, quit competitive boxing after taking a pool cue to the eye. Now he’s taken up a second career teaching out-of-shape Wall Streeters how to fight.

Or, as he puts it, “training a bunch of fuckin’ nerds.”

Despite the hilarious verbal abuse, the nerds keep paying him to tell them how pathetic their uppercuts are.

A Letter of Advice

In June of 1971, before his 26-year-old son, Michael, got married, Ronald Reagan sent him the following letter of advice:

Michael Reagan
Manhattan Beach, California
June 1971

Dear Mike:

Enclosed is the item I mentioned (with which goes a torn up IOU). I could stop here but I won’t.

You’ve heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the “unhappy marrieds” and cynics. Now, in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it.

Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly confident that what a wife doesn’t know won’t hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever finding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in the flimsy excuse of where he was till three A.M., a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of this relationship disappears. There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves than there can ever be wives deserving of blame. There is an old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back to an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn’t take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music. If you truly love a girl, you shouldn’t ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other woman to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the woman you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.

Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.



P.S. You’ll never get in trouble if you say “I love you” at least once a day.

From Letters of Note